Saying No Is Actually A Positive Thing

Posted By admin on May 21st, 2016

Saying No Is Actually A Positive Thing

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Say No

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on Jan 1, 2012

Although we may associate “No” with a negative assertion, it can be actually a very positive thing you can do – depending on what type of “No” it is. Today, I will discuss some simple ways to say “no” to take charge of your life and time.

Why Say No

– There are only so many hours in a day. Saying “no” to unproductive and time wasting things will  
make you a lot more productive.
– Saying “no” to a new commitment which you won’t be able to handle will give your existing projects
more time to finish with a quality outcome.
– When we are stressed, depressed, and burned out from our modern day rigorous time consuming and high-paced activities, saying “no” will free up time to relax and wind down.   
– Saying “no” is respecting your time and respecting yourself. It will eliminate tasks that you don’t  
enjoy and will free up time to pursue your goals and dreams.

Simple Ways to Say No

Say No With A Smile – Saying “no” is a lot simpler when you add a genuine smile to it and avoid a serious face. Also, the person you are saying “no” to will take it a lot easier way if you say “no” in a smiling face.

Add A Brief Explanation – If you add a short explanation to the reason behind your saying “no,” the other person will understand it and will not get emotional or reactive. However, stop giving out an essay. Explaining too much will make it worse and the other person will think that there is something to it.

Don’t Lie – Avoid making up reasons that aren’t true for excuses. Most likely, the other person will be able to guess that it’s a lie from your body posture and voice tone.

Delay Your Response – If you feel that saying “no” will be difficult and likely to cause an emotional outburst from the other person, instead of saying “no” right away, take some time and reply back at a later time. This works because if you say “no” at a later time, the other person will not be on a full alert to hear “no” (than when she proposed) and it will have less impact than the first time.

Offer An Alternative Solution – There will be times when you just simply can’t avoid it in a full scale. Offer something different and acceptable, yet keeping it within your means, so it does not cause you too much time and stress like the initial request.

Saying “no” at the right time will save you a lot of time later. As you get better with saying “no,” you will be able to manage, simplify, and reduce stress a lot better than before.

5 Money Tips for Financial Success

Posted By admin on April 26th, 2016

5 Money Tips for Financial Success

Five Personal Finance Tips You Need to Know Right Now

In order to become financially successful, you don’t need to spend year after year pursuing an MBA. Doing simple things consistently and religiously year after year can lead to the path of financial success. Today, I will describe 5 such things.

Spend Less Than You Earn
– Stick to spending less than your income, and financial success will come to you. This is the most important financial tip ever. If you can’t do this, doing everything else will be meaningless.

Pay Yourself First
– Depending on your ability, save 5 – 15 percent of your gross income into an investment account, mutual funds, registered account, etc. Stick to this plan as long as you can afford to.

Build An Emergency Fund – Set aside six months’ (or more) worth of living expenses in a savings account or in an investment that is comparatively safe and can be withdrawn in a short notice without paying any penalty.
Set Goals – Know exactly when you would like to accomplish various goals throughout your life such as buying a house, paying off mortgage, retiring in the future, and so on. Take necessary steps to realise these goals.

Review Progress
– Review your progress at least once a year. If you are not on the right track towards achieving your goals, change and readjust your financial roadmap. Consult a fee-based financial professional if necessary. If you don’t have the knowledge to invest by yourself, seek professional help. I recommend fee-only financial professionals.

Why Rushing Actually Slows You Down

Posted By admin on April 11th, 2016

Stop Rushing to Become Productive and Save Time

Stop Rushing to Become Productive and Save Time

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on Dec 17, 2011

You have seen them everywhere – people rushing to everything they do, 24/7. They have become so habituated to rushing that it has become a norm in their daily living. Ever wonder why and where they are rushing to reach? Will it be ever possible for them to sit back, relax, and enjoy a moment life has to offer?
Today, I am going to describe why rushing actually slows you down, and if you were rushing until now, it is time to take your time to concentrate on the moment and achieve the most out of your life.

Rushing is Unhealthy – Rushing will make you unhealthy and will shorten your life. Rushing increases stress hormones and also increases inflammation in the body. Rushing also has been linked with obesity as rushing leads to overeating and unhealthy eating habits.

Lack of Focus – When you rush, it is impossible to focus on doing your best on what you are doing at present. If you don’t concentrate and put in your best, your results will be sloppy and you are actually lagging behind in the long run with the poor quality and performance.

Wasting of Time – When you rush, you think that you are saving time. But actually, you are wasting your time. If you are not taking your time to produce something at its excellence, you will eventually end up doing the same thing over and over – taking a lot more time had you done the same work taking your time in the first place.

Lost Opportunities – When you rush, your intention is to finish what you are doing as fast as possible – and nothing else. This leads you to missing opportunities, ideas, improvement, and much more. When Newton saw an apple falling from the tree, if he was rushing to see it, he would not have discovered gravity. When you rush into something, you missed all opportunities associated with it.

When you do not appreciate life and the time you have and rush into everything, you won’t be able to better yourself and appreciate the limited time you have here on earth.

How Not to Give Up on the Gym

Posted By admin on March 19th, 2016

How to Continue Going to the Gym Forever

How to Continue Going to the Gym Forever

We all know that regularly going to the gym and making it a lifetime habit is something we all want, but very few of us can actually hold onto it long enough to reap the benefits. Once we start going to the gym with lots of enthusiasm and optimism, most of us would vigorously go to the gym for the first three months. Then for the next three months to six months it would turn into an occasional venture, rather than a regular one. After nine months to one year, the whole enthusiasm and optimism would die down and most of us would never again put our feet on the gym doorstep. Are there any steps we can take or things we can do differently to hold onto going to the gym for good? Today, I am going to talk about the steps I take to continue going to the gym or doing any physical activities forever.

I started yoga when I was 16 and I started going to the gym roughly 7 years ago. And I have been continuing these ever since I started. Here are some simple steps I have been following to make sure that my physical activities do not turn into a thing of the past:

– Do not overdo anything. Set a routine of how many sessions or reps you will do during each gym visit and stick to it.

– Make each gym session short and brief. Those who stay endless hours at the gym are likely to give up after a few months. Each of my sessions at the gym usually last no more than 30 to 40 minutes.

– Pick two to three days per week to go to the gym. I only go to the gym twice per week.

– Occasionally, stop going to the gym as planned. This planned laziness will give your body a break and you will feel invigorated and encouraged to go back to the gym after a short break. I usually discontinue going to the gym when I am on vacation or some other times of the year. I do it 2 to 3 times every year.  

– The objective of going to the gym should be staying fit and living a healthy life – not to be a  muscle man and show off your abs (unless that’s your line of work).  

Going to the gym should be a part of your daily living and the benefits are endless. I can’t really tell you when I was last sick. Life is wonderful when you are healthy and fit. I am enjoying every moment of my life and I encourage you to continue going to the gym forever.

Words to Avoid for Better Communication and Self-Confidence

Posted By admin on March 4th, 2016

Words to Avoid for Better Communication and Self-Confidence

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Words and Phrases You Should Avoid

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on Nov 5, 2011

What you say has a greater impact on how you interact with others and your self-esteem. There are some words that will make you more confident in your daily activities and conversations. Simply put, there are some words that will give your mind negative messages and will make your conversations difficult with others by creating a negative environment even before the actual conversation starts.
Today, I will go through some of these words or phrases.

Avoid these Types of Words or Phrases

Here are some words or phrases in bold you should avoid. I am putting these in sentences for better understating.

– I know what you are saying, but
– You have to do this
– You can’t do that
– I can’t do it
– I will try to do it
– I am sorry about that
Possibly this will work
I would like to
Maybe I will do it
Perhaps, this is not going to happen
Do you have a minute?
Am I bothering you?
Am I interrupting anything?
Sorry to bother you
Sorry to interrupt

Why You Should Avoid These Words/Phrases?

When you use these words or phrases, you are projecting yourself as someone who is lacking confidence and weak – someone who is not sure about what he wants and what to do. Some of these words/phrases will create a negative impact and will irritate the person you are talking to the moment you use them. For example, if someone is in a good mood and feeling upbeat, the moment you utter “Am I bothering you?’ or “Sorry to interrupt…” it will make that person really bothered or interrupted although he would not have felt that way had you not mentioned it to him.

Replacement Words or Phrases Suggestions

Try these instead:

Will you do it?
– Are you willing to do this?
– I am unable to do it
– This is what I can do …
– This is what I will do
– I apologise
– What we will do …
Definitely …
Certainly …
This will just take a second
This will just take a moment

If you need to talk to someone, instead of asking permission by saying “Can I ask you a quick question?” or, instead of saying “Am I interrupting you?” or “Sorry to bother you…” just ask the question firmly and politely. This will start the conversation with a positive tone and good mood, and you will have better chances of getting things done once you start with a positive tone, positive body language, and a positive approach.

How to Wake Up in the Morning

Posted By admin on February 26th, 2016

How to Wake Up in the Morning

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wake Up and Feel Fresh In The Morning

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on Oct 10, 2011

In this article I am not going to talk about how to sleep enough to wake up naturally without an alarm clock. Nor will I talk about how to make waking up a regular habit so you don’t need an alarm clock anymore. While I don’t disagree that it may be beneficial and a good habit to wake up at the same time daily, it may not be a realistic option to wake up at the same time for everyone due to various work-life circumstances. I am not in the position to afford the luxury of waking up at a pre-set time daily due to my lifestyle – and I am dependant on alarm clocks to meet my lifestyle demands. Today, I am going to discuss how to wake up in the morning effectively without causing too much stress and strain on your health.

Keep Your Alarm Clock Out of Reach – Do not keep your alarm clock too close. If you do, chances are you will stop your alarm clock and go back to sleep without knowing. When you wake up in the morning, your mind is not fully conscious yet, and even without realising you will go back to sleep again. Don’t keep it too close and not too far either. It should be placed somewhere that requires you to get up and move from your sleeping position to get it.

Use Gentle Alarm Tone – Do not use a harsh or too loud alarm tone. Use a gentle tone that makes you happy or gives you positive vibrations when you hear it. An alarm tone is the first thing you are starting your day with. If this is harsh and annoying, it’s bound the set you off for the whole day.

Don’t Rush Out of Bed – Once you are up and awake, don’t jump out of bed or rush to leave the bed. Take a deep breath in and out a few times, slowly sit up, and then slowly walk to the washroom.

Splash Cold Water – Splash some cold water (not too cold either) on your face, it will invigorate your senses and will make you happy and fully awake. Don’t forget to drink a glass of water.

Take an Invigorating Shower – Taking a shower works perfect for me to make me cheerful and get ready for the day. However, if I plan to work out or need to do some cleaning, I skip my shower right after waking up.

There are some specific things that work for specific people. The art is to find out what works for you and perform those to make your day more productive and a joyous one.

How to Empty Your Mind

Posted By admin on February 7th, 2016

How to Empty Your Mind

How to Clear Your Mind

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on Aug 24, 2011

Have you noticed what happens when you don’t clear your closet, cabinet, fridge, or anything regularly? Unwanted things start piling up and soon it becomes unmanageable. Our brain is no different than the above situation. In a world of high-stress, work overload, and infinite demands and responsibilities, our mind gets tangled, over-loaded and messy. That’s why we need to untangle and unwind to empty and clear our mind, so it can refocus and work at its fullest potential. Today, I am going to talk about some simple things you can do to empty your mind.

Take Deep Breaths – This is quick technique to clear your mind. Deep breathing puts more oxygen in your body, and your mind benefits from increased level of oxygen. For the same reason, aerobic exercises can clear your mind as well.

Write It Down – Whether on a piece of paper, in a notebook, on a laptop, or on your smart phone, writing down what’s bothering you can clear your mind from clutter. It is a good practise to keep a handy notebook or an online space to write down your thoughts – whether it’s something you want to vent about or it’s something pleasant. If you can’t do it daily, try to do it whenever you can. When you start writing down without worrying about anything else, your mind get rids of its unconscious clutter and makes more room for conscious thoughts.

Talk A Pleasant Walk – A pleasant, unhurried walk around the block, or in the park can empty your mind from accumulated stress and negative thoughts. While walking, try to feel and sense all the bits and pieces of your surroundings. For example, try to smell the air, feel the humidity or moisture in the air, pay attention to the various noises around you, notice anything unusual, and enjoy a beautiful garden, a mild breeze, or a beautiful sunset.

Talk to A Good Friend – Everyone should have reliable friends to whom they can talk without fear or worry of criticism. Share your concerns and thoughts with your friends and you will feel a lighter state of mind than before.

Listen To Light Music – This is one of my favourites. When I feel too burdened, I play some instruments or new age music, lie down or sit relaxed, close my mind, and concentrate on music. Doing this just for a half an hour can clear out my mind a lot and I feel totally invigorated and energized after that.

Enjoy A Great View From A High-Rise Building – As a skyscraper fanatic, I like living in tall buildings. One of the many benefits of living in a skyscraper is that you can enjoy great views from your balcony or through your glass wall bedroom or den (home office). When I feel my mind can’t bear it anymore, I just stay in the balcony or sit in front of my condo glass wall on a relaxing chair to enjoy outside views for some time. This works out perfectly for me to empty out my mind.

These are some tips that work for me. Try some of these to see if it works out for you or not. The art is the find those that work out best for you and apply them to empty your mind for a better yourself.

How to Use Visualization Properly to Achieve Goals and Success

Posted By admin on January 24th, 2016

How to Use Visualization Properly to Achieve Goals and Success

Proper Visualization Techniques to Attract What You Want

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on July 31, 2011

Visualization is nothing but using our imagination to make dreams or what we want come true. Our mind is behind every success in our life and proper visualization unlocks mind to work to its fullest potential. Visualization is not a new concept. Since the beginning of mankind, we have been using visualization – either with or without our knowing in our subconscious mind. In prehistoric times, hunters and gatherers used to draw their vivid hunting scenes on the cave wall. Fighters were also seen to draw their fights on the ground or on a wall. Both of these visualizations would become reality in later times. Today, I will discuss how to use visualization the right way to achieve what you want and attract success and prosperity.

Visualization is simply a technique for imagining or creating a mental image of something we want to obtain in the future. Yes, it’s just like daydreaming and daydreaming can make your dreams reality. However, you need to use visualization techniques properly. When you envision something you would like to achieve a goal or anything in the future, don’t concentrate on only the outcome or end results. Instead, focus on both the actual process the makes the outcome possible and the outcome itself. Your visualization should be a balanced combination of both process and results. Don’t focus on any one of these too much or too little, leaving the other one.

Let me give you an example to clear up what I mean by a balanced combination. Currently I am working on my second book “Save Now.” So, seeing “Save Now” published is my goal. How do I use visualization the right way to make this happen? I am creating a mental picture of the whole thing. When envisioning the process of writing this book, I am seeing myself going to a coffee shop and working a few hours to write this book. I am seeing myself working even harder during my vacation as I have a full-time regular job. I am seeing myself going to an isolated location and stay in a hotel for a week or two to work on my book without any interruptions. There are many other details – but these are the main elements of my mental visualization of the process part. How do I envision the outcome or result part? I imagine that “Save Now” has been published and make its place to Chapter’s bookshelves (just like “Invest Now”). I also imagine that A Dawn Journal readers across the globe are reading and discussing about “Save Now” … and much more like these.

Just visualizing what you want will not do anything unless you take action. Use visualization with hard work and positive mental attitude to reach your goals. Visualization can be a powerful tool to help our mind to go beyond its limited circle, to change our limited thoughts are beliefs, and to create necessary behavioural change to work towards achieving our dreams.

Dressing For Success

Posted By admin on January 2nd, 2016

Dressing For Success

Importance of Dressing For Success

Yes, it is a common thing you will hear from various self-help gurus, but the thing is that it does work. When you dress for success, you are dressing to appear as the person you want to be. For example, if you get up in the morning, put on the shirt that you have been wearing for days, which is wrinkled, and sweatpants, well you are not dressing for success. You are dressing to be someone who does not plan to do much that day, and that is exactly what is going to happen. You are not driving yourself because you are showing an image of yourself as someone who is lazy.

Now, look at someone who dresses well, wears suits or nice blouses and carries themselves well. What do they have? Well, the one thing they have, that you need, is confidence. They dress confident because they are confident and that is what dressing for success is all about. So, how do you go about dressing for success then? Is there a trick to it? No, there is no trick to it, it is just about doing the following.

  1. Look at the people you admire and how they dress. Determine what it is about that that you admire, and what about the way they dress you like. At this point you don’t copy what they are wearing, but you understand why they are wearing what they do.
  2. If you like that a person dresses as an individual, then you should to, so you can reflect who you are by what you wear. However, if the person dresses in a suit that is well-ironed, then you should look at dressing the same way because you want to ensure you dress as a professional. The professionalism is what you like, hence that is what you want to emulate with how you dress.
  3. Buy clothes that you can afford that reflect not who you are but who you want to be. If you want to be a professional businessperson, then dress the part. If you want to be a confident musician, then dress the part. That is all you have to do.

Dressing as a professional and dressing with confidence changes you. When you look in the mirror wearing a dirty shirt, with unkempt hair, you will not always feel good about yourself. However, if you look in the mirror and see a well-dressed individual, you will be happy with what you see and you will want that person to be who you are. Hence you will try to become that person. You want to be the person you see in those clothes, on the inside, and that is what dressing like a professional will do for you.

It does not have to cost a lot to dress for success thanks to cheap deals on the internet, just make sure that the person you are dressing as is the person you want to be. Don’t dress like you think people want you to dress, dress for success as the person you want to be.

To streamline and minimize blog maintenance, I will be discontinuing maintaining the Simplepersonaldevelopment.com website (however, I will still hold the domain). I will gradually move all articles from this site to Entrepreneur Journey site. This article originally published on the above website on June 27, 2011

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What You Must Not Miss When You Have Only 24 Hours in Las Vegas

Posted By admin on December 30th, 2015

Las Vegas Offers So Much to See

Just finished my 3-day Las Vegas trip. I had to finish so much in 3 days that I was always on the run. Especially when my Grand Canyon trip took one whole day. So basically I had time to spend one full day visiting free tourist attractions and I decided to give you a brief rundown of what you must not miss if you have only one day in Las Vegas.

Bellagio Fountains: This spectacular water show is not to be missed.

The Mirage Volcano: Watch an exploding volcano in the forest without the risks of going into the actual forest.

The Venetian Grand Canal: Who says you need to go to Italy to experience Venice-style canals? The Venetian Grand Canal mimics the canals of Venice, complete with a gondola ride.

After experiencing the above three, if you have time you can go through Paris the Eiffel Tower, New York New York Hotel Brooklyn Bridge, Fremont Street Experience, Caesars Palace, the Luxor, etc. And obviously, taking part in the things I mentioned will give you the experience of watching The Strip as well.

Las Vegas has so many things to see that you will need about five days if you need to experience a bit of everything, including the Grand Canyon and Hoover Dam. However, if you are time constrained, in my view what I mentioned above should be good enough to claim you have visited Las Vegas.

In this video LINK, I have captured the three important things I mentioned. And keep an eye on my YouTube Channel for more video clips in the future.